· By Case Kenny
You don't have to feel guilty anymore
That’s funny. I don’t remember buying tickets for a guilt trip. LOL.
But seriously say that to yourself! You didn’t buy tickets and you don’t need to guilt yourself. As much as we sometimes let other people guilt us into thinking we’re wrong, we do it to ourselves all the time.
We guilt ourselves into thinking we’re not good enough, that not where we’re supposed to be or that we’re making too many mistakes.
It needs to stop! We need to stop guilty ourselves.
Self guilt is like constantly scolding yourself for being human.
You’re not going to stop being human anytime soon soooooo.
IMO, self guilt is the foundation on which all kinds of nasty, self destructive things are built - lack of self esteem, no self confidence, second guessing yourself, trying to fix everyone else, etc.
But the good news is that our tendency to self guilt is something we can control! We can control what we tell ourselves.
So, here’s a simple reminder to stop guilting yourself… in any way.
Self guilt tells you that you’re not enough, that your life is meaningless, that you’re constantly falling behind, that there’s a long list of things you should be doing and haven’t done (and it’s only getting longer).
Stop feeling guilty!
Don’t feel guilty for:
- Being a work in progress
- Being flawed or making mistakes
- Being content with what you have right now.
- Not looking, talking or dressing a certain way.
You are doing just fine, my friend and there’s no reason to think otherwise.
There’s no reason to guilt yourself into thinking you’re anything but on the right track.
Don’t feel guilty for not being where you think you should be.
The truth is, no one thinks they’re where they should be right now. Everyone wants to be five years from now sipping margaritas, with their soulmate cashing checks and living the dream life.
So you’re not the odd one out thinking you’re falling behind.
Take that off your list of things to feel guilty about :)
Overcoming the temptation to think you’re falling behind will set you free to appreciate what you have right now and build what you want for your future. And the best way to do that is to let go of the BS self guilt we allow ourselves to build.
Don’t feel guilty that you enjoy something odd, that you’re content with the simple things in your life, that you don’t look a certain way or have six figures in your bank account.
And most of all, don’t feel guilty about things that are not your fault.
You don’t have to fix everyone, you don’t have to be a punching bag for other peoples’ problems or baggage. Be a good friend but don’t feel guilty for not fixing someone. That is not your weight to carry.
Don’t feel guilty for doing what’s best for YOU.
At the end of the day, amidst all of the craziness of life and the many, many, many things you can’t control, the one thing you can control is the way you talk to yourself. And you don’t need to guilt yourself in any way - about who you are, where you are or what you’re doing.