It's ok to move on

It's ok to move on

It’s OK to let go. It’s OK to let go of people, exes and memories that pull you down. It’s OK to let go of shame, guilt and regret.

That’s not particularly earth shattering, right? We all know it’s OK but it's not easy to do in practice.

Why do we struggle to let go?

We hold onto memories, people and experiences because at some point they were really good for us. At some point they were the best thing that ever happened to you.

At some point you thought you had found your person, your dream job or circumstance, body or confidence. At some point you thought you had found what you were looking for and it was amazing. It was what you deserved.

But then life threw you a curveball. Your relationship ended, you lost a friend, you disappointed yourself, you dropped the ball, your job fired you, etc.

The reason we struggle to let go of the weight we carry with us is because we don’t believe that great things can happen to us again.

We don’t believe great things can happen to us twice.

It's this hesitation to believe that great, rewarding and compassionate things can happen twice in life that leads us to hold onto emotions for far too long. We’ve duped ourselves into believing that for some reason we’re unworthy of a second shot.

We think we’re unworthy of finding that thing, that person or that feeling a second time. We think we’ll never be able to find someone who makes us feel that way again, a job that fulfills us or a sense of confidence that fuels us.

I can't think of a more limiting belief in life than that!

We need to rid ourselves of this inclination to think that great things don’t happen twice in life.

They absolutely can happen twice... or three times... or ten - as long as you believe you're worthy of them.

- That amazing way you felt when you thought you met your soulmate but it ended in a dumpster fire? You can absolutely feel that way again.

- That sense of calm you felt when you finally found your confidence and your groove before it turned downward? You can absolutely feel that way again.

- That fulfilment you felt when you started working your dream job but then two years later you were let go? You can absolutely feel that way again.

You CAN free yourself from carrying around shame that you let your soulmate go. You CAN free yourself from guilt that you’re no longer that confident person you once were. You CAN free yourself from disappointment that you’re not doing what you’re capable of.

Good things happen more than once.

Say it. Make it a mantra of yours.

Good things happen more than once.

We need to let go of feeling unworthy that they'll happen again. We need to let go of fear that we blew it once and for all.

Say it with me... I deserve to experience the good things I once thought I’d never experience again.

It might be in a different form. It might look different than what you imagined. It might be a feeling you didn’t quite expect… BUT those good things you thought you had and then lost for good?

You deserve to feel them again… and you can but it starts with letting go.