I used to assume that life goes a little something like this:
You work hard for what you want, you grind it out, you work on yourself, you grow yourself, you grow the list of things you’ve accomplished, you grow your list of friends, and you grow your bank account.
Once you’ve been doing that for awhile, you finally hit a moment where it all clicks.
You hit a moment where:
- You have money because you’ve been working so hard.
- You're confident and you love yourself to the max because you've been doing the internal work.
- You’re with someone you love and that person loves you because you’ve been living with high standards and dating intentionally.
You hit his moment where it all clicks and you’re happy because you finally have it all!
I used to assume that years of putting in work eventually give you everything you want at once. I used to assume that there will be this big moment where it all comes together and you’re happy.
But here’s what I’ve realized and Oprah’s words brought it to life:
You can have it all. Just not at once.
I’ve realized that there’s not one big moment in life where it all clicks and you have everything you want all at once.
Rather, you get bits and pieces of all those things throughout your life. You 100% can have everything you want BUT life really changes when you realize that you can have all those things, just not all at once.
- You can have that dream job.
- You can have that dream body.
- You can have that passion project.
- You can have that relationship.
- You can have that confidence.
- You can have that sense of fulfillment and purpose.
But life isn’t simple and it rarely offers you the ability to have those things all at once.
When you recognize that, you realize that you don’t need to wait anymore to be happy. You don’t need to wait to be happy until that big moment where everything clicks.
Rather, you can be happy for each moment as they come your way. THAT is a real power move.
Realize that you can have everything you want, just not all at once.
When you realize that, you realize that you can be happy RIGHT NOW. You don’t need to feel guilty that you don’t have those other things at the same time. You don’t need to feel guilty that you haven’t had that “aha moment” or that moment where it all clicks.
No! You can be happy in the middle of your journey or even at the beginning.
You can be happy whenever you get one thing you want but while you still lack others. You don’t need all of those things to be happy.
You can be happy when you get that dream job BUT you’re still struggling with student debt and not happy with your body.
You can be happy when you discover a passion for making music in your living room BUT you’re struggling with dating and you can’t seem to find someone who’s right for you.
You can be happy after you work your a** off and you’re in the best shape of your life BUT you feel lost in your career and hate your 9-5.
Feel me? You can have it all!
You can have your dream job, passion, your best body, confidence, fulfilment, friends, money, etc. BUT life isn’t a straight line leading to a big pile of all those things at once.
You pick them up along the way and you don’t need to have everything you want at once to be happy.
It’s like eating a fancy 5 course dinner with your friends.
You get the appetizer, then the salad, then the main course and the desert. You wouldn’t enjoy each but wait until you’re finally done and paid the bill to say yum that was really good.
No! You would take each as they come and enjoy them. It’s the same with life. We don’t need to wait until we have everything we want to be happy.
We should celebrate each good thing and each success as they come along.
We should give ourselves permission to do that. Celebrate every moment, every success, every big move, every relationship and every paycheck as they come your way. You can have everything you want but the timing of those things is different. They are all coming at different times.
That's OK because that shouldn’t delay your happiness in life. You can be happy with each as you live them. The absence of something doesn’t negate the presence of something else.
It’s OK because deciding to be happy in the middle of your life’s journey doesn’t mean you’re taking your foot off the gas.
It doesn't mean you’re giving up on having everything you want. It simply means you’re appreciating and being happy with each good thing as it comes your way. Let’s go.