Let’s talk about why we feel overwhelmed, anxious, unhappy or unmotivated in life.
It happens when you look ahead and you demand answers You look for signs that you’re on the right track. You look for signs that you should be hopeful that you’re doing the right things.
But those are few and far between and when you don’t see them… voila… you feel lost. Frustrated. A failure. Anxious.
Here’s a game changer to help you stop feeling those emotions.
Stop looking for those answers! Stop looking for that hope and instead create it yourself.
Easier said than done, right?
Here’s how I do it.
Realize that you don’t know what chapter of life you’re on. You could be on chapter 2, chapter 10 or chapter 50. And furthermore you don’t know how many chapters are ahead of you! That could be chapter 2 of 100 chapters, chapter 10 of 11 chapters or chapter 50 of 1,000 chapters!
So, to be looking for answers without context of where the heck you are… well it’s setting you up to feel anxious.
There really is no point in demanding answers right now.
Yes… search for your truth. Yes… live, love and make decisions in life to expand your perspective and your experience so you can truly know who you are and what you deserve BUT stop demanding answers of the universe.
You don’t have all the pieces to the puzzle right now so stop trying to put it together.
You can’t put together a puzzle when you’re on chapter 2 and it’s 10 chapters long. So stop trying.
Take the questions you’ve been asking:
- Am I actually going to be successful?
- Am I actually going to be wealthy and financially secure?
- Am I actually going to be happy and fulfilled?
- Am I ever going to find my person?
- Am I ever going to find love?
Now, add an important new phrase to the beginning.
What am I willing to do?
What am I willing to do to actually become successful?
What am I willing to do to become wealthy and financially secure.
What am I willing to do to become happy and fulfilled?
What am I willing to do to find my person?
What am I willing to do to find love?
Flip it! Stop demanding answers and instead ask yourself the right question.
You will get the things you want in life… money, success, happiness and love… but what are you willing to do those things?
Are you willing to say yes more? No more? Are you willing to work harder? Are you willing to uncomfortable more often?
Yes? Ok well there's your answer.
You CAN answer your own question.
You can answer that same question you keep hurling out to the universe hoping for a response back.
This approach is so much more powerful than getting in your head like you do when you nervously, anxiously and desperately look around for validation that you’re doing the right things.
Don’t go that route.
You want love? Well what are you willing to do for it? Are you doing it? No? Ok, it’s all good homie but now you know what you need to do. You don't need to wonder if the universe has an answer for you.
You’ve created your own answer.
You want success? Well what are you willing to do for it? Are you doing it? No? Ok well now you know what you need to do. There’s peace and calm in that… don’t you think?
Clear your plate of the anxiety you’ve created by hoping for a sign. Create the sign yourself.