It's OK to have loved and "lost"

It’s easy to look back and think the younger version of you was more worthy than who you are today.

We beat ourselves up in the present for having blown it in the past and as a result we think that we were more worthy than than we are today.

But here's the thing...

You are ALWAYS deserving and ALWAYS worthy. That never changes.

Who you are today is just as worthy as who you used to be - no matter if you feel old and washed up, no matter if you feel you’ve tried and failed as many times as humanly possible, no matter how many times you've been absolutely crushed, tried and failed, loved and lost, etc.

Your worth doesn't stay in your past with that failed relationship. Your worth doesn't stay in the past with that younger, cooler version of yourself. Your worth doesn't stay in the past with that version of you who could party until 4 am and get up and do it all over again.

Your worth follows and grows with you… but now it has the added benefit of being wiser.

It's cliche to say... but it really is a true statement: it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

Why? "Lost" is an interesting word.

- Do you lose when you go through a breakup, a toxic relationship or a long period of being frustratingly single?

- Do you lose when those experiences give you a better understanding of what’s right and what’s wrong for you?

- Do you lose when you realize you deserve someone who doesn’t give you mixed signals?

- Do you lose when you realize you deserve to be chosen all the time… not just on Saturday night at 2am?

- Do you lose when you’re proud of yourself for being vulnerable with someone?

No! How can you say you lost?!

Through those experiences… you get the gift of wisdom and certainty.

Through those experience you're now certain of what you need, of what you bring to the table and of what impresses you and what doesn't.

Doesn’t it feel good to walk around and know who the heck you are and what you deserve?

Doesn’t it feel good to be certain about yourself?

Yes… heck yes it feels good!

Your worth is right here and now it’s supercharged. It’s supercharged because it has the benefit of wisdom and certainty.

- You know WHY you’re amazing… not just that you’re amazing.

- You know WHY you have high standards… not just that you should have high standards.

- You know who deserves your time and energy… not just that you’re supposed to protect your time and energy.

- You know what you represent and who you are. You have wisdom. You have certainty.

And most of all... you know that you deserve to love again. The person you were in the past is just as deserving as the person you are today, the person you’ll be tomorrow and anything in between.

Your worth is amplified by what you lose… not diminished by it.

That's huge!

Your worth is amplified by what you lose… not diminished by it.

When that’s your mentality towards life, you realize it's better to have tried and lost than to have not tried at all.

THAT is a life well-lived. THAT is a life you’ll always be proud of.