· By Case Kenny
The best thing about you...
I think you’re doing better than you give yourself credit for.
I don't mean that in some pandering way. I genuinely believe this. Y
ou are doing better than you think - amidst all the things you can pinpoint as failures and rejections in your life - because of "cause and effect."
You still listen to the cause and effect in your life.
You have a question and you answer it.
You laugh when something is funny.
You cry when something is sad.
You get food when you’re hungry.
You try something new because you’re bored.
Cause and effect... aka you listen to your intuition and your humanity.
You might say "Case, that's just called being human."
Well, yes and no.
I’ve been podcasting and writing for the past 8 years and I’ve talked to hundreds if not thousands of people and I’ve heard so many stories of growth and failure, rejection, life, love, work, etc.
And something I've discovered is that a lot of people have given up on their reaction to life around they. They have the cause, but they just stop reacting. They turn passive because they've adopted a "it is what it is" mentality. A defeatist mentality. A numb mentality. A mentality of "what’s the point?"
What’s the point… it’s just gonna happen again?
What’s the point of trying? Of chasing curiosity? Of doing something new?
What’s the point of looking up the answer if I'm just gonna forget it?
What's the point of being excited if I’m just gonna be hurt?
What’s the point of starting a new project if I’m just gonna fail?
What’s the point of going out on another Saturday with friends?
I don’t know if that’s you or not, but I think you're doing better than you think because you're still (in some way) listening to "cause" in your life.
You remain curious and you don’t give up on curiosity.
You laugh at something because it’s funny.
You tell someone you love them because you love them.
You start a new project simply because it excites you.
You go to a movie alone because you want to see it.
You try a new dish because you saw it on Tiktok.
You’re doing better at the end of the day because you’re still active.
The alternative is giving up, turning numb, and saying "it is what it is... so what’s the point?"
If you’re living your life - no matter your age, status, stage, etc. - and you still chase curiosity, you do what interests you, you say what’s on your mind, you're willing to speak up, you're eager to try something new, you're willing to be a beginner again, you laugh when something is funny, you cry when something is sad, you go to therapy, you’re inspired by life around you - you’re doing better than you think.
If you're struggling with this, lean into the idea of cause and effect...
If it makes you curious, look it up. If you have a question, ask.
If a part of you wants connection, fun, or excitement… text a friend even if it’s been a while.
If you think someone is attractive, tell them. If you want to try a new hobby, start it.
Cause and effect.
Doing this will show you, that in the face of statements like "it is what it is," well, it’s actually not! It’s not "it is what it is"… it’s what YOU decide it is.
You’re alive! You have an intuition that gives you and gives you hints on what’s best for you.
And the best way to take back control of your life and reinvigorate your sense of self… is to listen to your self again.